and I thought about it, thought it wasn’t even important enough, but since I can’t stop fucking thinking about you, well here ya go. In a way I’m thankful of course for you and every other bad decision I’ve made because I always learn from my mistakes. And each time I get hurt by someone it’s new and different yet also so god damn familiar. But I want to thank you specifically from turning me all the way off from a string of bad destructive behaviors. I now see my value so much more clearly because you could not. I thought you did, and I’m still convinced that person I had feelings for is there, but you decided to fuck this up for both of us. You really shit the bed, hard.
i know I’ll never understand rejection. Mostly because the people rejecting me are doing it out of fucking left field. They are in and then one day they hate me, I’m a psycho, i’m gross… I don’t really know because I haven’t gotten a straight answer out of the 7 grown adult males who have decided I’m not worthy these past two years. Hurts every time. That’s why every time I’ve had to end something with someone I give them ample time to turn things around and a thorough explanation if it’s just not getting there. Common fucking courtesy.
Apparently though there’s this pseudo boundary generating machine built into the narcissistic experience where “I don’t owe you an explanation for my feelings” is an actual thing dickheads think is ok to say to someone who is doing nothing but being supportive kind and caring. I’ve said it before and I’ll never stop saying it, to everyone who is left hanging by some piece of shit who changed their mind about you over night, you are not the sum of others reactions to you. Unless of course you’re problematic and reactionary. I don’t know those people though. I stay far away from those.
Man this one’s not funny. I’ve just been pushed too far. The next person who gets to get close to me is going to have to jump through so many god damned hoops. I hate that. I hate that I have these walls up now. I know it’s for self protection and I know I will have more wholesome experiences living like this. But it makes me sad. I can’t trust anyone anymore. Between the blatant red flags and the lies there’s virtually no human connection left out there. I’m sad for myself but I’m also sad for humanity.
yes things are sad. But I am able to hold on tightly to the positive aspects. I’ve grown from this hurt. I’ve also gained several new and old friendships through commiserating about how dumb boys are. There are actually good solid people out there who are not afraid to show who they are to others because they too have gotten hurt and seen it’s ok, you get through it.
when you inevitably read this I hope you’re suffering. You don’t get to treat good people bad and feel good about it. You fucked up. And you fucked up with the wrong person. I hope life treats you poorly until you learn how to be nice to those who are trying to lift you up.
also don’t tell my best friend you think you’re more intelligent than me and that you’re “struggling” with that. Get the fuck over yourself. You’re nothing special.